Who I Work With
This work is for anyone who wants their own death or a loved one's to be met with intention rather than left to chance. Most of us move through life without ever preparing for it. That's not a failure, it's simply what our culture asks of us—to look away, to defer, to let the systems handle it. But death comes regardless. And when it arrives without preparation, the weight falls on grieving loved ones who may not know your wishes, or on systems that cannot honor who you truly were.
Death planning is not only for the elderly or the ill, but also for anyone who is living. Starting this process now, at any age, in any season of health, is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and the people you will one day leave behind.
I am particularly drawn to people who sense that the unseen dimensions of dying matter as much the practical ones, and who want the dying space to feel sacred, not just managed.
I am comfortable sitting with whatever arises: fear, grief, wonder, laughter, or the sacred strangeness of the threshold itself.
If any part of this resonates, keep reading. There is a place for you here.
If Someone You Love Is Dying
Maybe you are the one holding it all together for your family—carrying the weight of what no one else will say, managing the logistics, staying strong in rooms where everyone else is looking away. Our culture teaches us to avoid death, to pretend it isn't coming, to defer the conversation until it can no longer be deferred. Until it becomes urgent. Decisions get made in fear, in haste, without the preparation that could have made all the difference. Someone has to be that person, and if you're here, then it is probably you.
Some of the people I work with are carrying their family's grief before the death has even arrived, while everyone around them is still pretending it isn’t happening. They are the ones who show up, who make the calls, who hold the space for everyone else, all while quietly wishing someone would hold it for them. They have been doing this mostly alone, and they are tired in a way they haven't fully admitted yet. If that is you, you are exactly who my work is for.
You don't have to know what you need when you reach out. You can come to me uncertain, overwhelmed, or carrying grief you haven’t had the space to process. Others arrive having already thought through the end-of-life care their loved one deserves and simply need a steady, experienced presence beside them. I meet you exactly where you are.
Many people tell me they exhale for the first time in months after that call. That exhale is where we begin.
If You Are Dying
Maybe you feel the end of your life is nearing. Maybe you’ve received a diagnosis and know that the time to prepare is now. You know what you want. You are not looking to be guided through the basics. You are looking for a collaborator who can match the seriousness you are bringing to this passage.
For the dying person sitting with the weight of what remains unfinished and what still needs to be said, this is precisely the work I am here for. I bring both practical expertise and deep spiritual presence to every crossing. And if underneath the preparation there is still fear, that is not a contradiction. It is the most human thing of all, and it is always welcome here too.
If this is where you are, I would be honored to walk beside you.
For Those Planning Ahead
You don't have to be dying to think about death. Sometimes it takes losing someone unexpectedly to realize you want your own death to be met with intention, not left to chance. For yourself…and the people you love.
You may have decided that you don't want your family standing in a hospital hallway making impossible decisions without knowing what you would have wanted. Together we work through whatever matters most to you on your terms and at your pace.
This isn’t a morbid conversation. For most people, it is one of the most clarifying and unexpectedly freeing conversations of their life.
If you are ready to begin that conversation, I am here.
If Your Animal Companion Is Dying
The loss of an animal companion is not a lesser grief. For many families, it is among the most profound losses they will ever face, and it deserves the same quality of presence and care as any other passage.
I walk alongside families through this threshold—sitting vigil during the active dying process, offering guidance on comfort care and pre-medication, and remaining present whether the family chooses euthanasia or a natural death. I can take photographs if the family wishes, and I continue to support the family through the immediate grief after the animal has passed.
If your companion is approaching this threshold, I would be honored to be there with you.
